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Publisher:
Little, Brown |
Release
Date: March 2003 |
ISBN:
0316597422 |
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Format
Reviewed: Hardcover |
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Genre:
Nonfiction -- Autobiography/Memoir |
Reviewed:
2003 |
Reviewer:
Kristin Johnson |
Reviewer
Notes: Holidays mentioned in passing. The author’s
first book of poetry, Less of Her, debuted in 1999.
Reviewer Kristin Johnson is
the author of Butterfly Wings: A Love Story, Christmas
Cookies Are For Giving. |
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Growing Up in Other People's Houses: a Memoir
By Paula
McLain
Poet
Paula McLain’s memoir of growing up among foster families
because of her ex-con unreliable father, and a mother who took off
for the movies for sixteen years, is an American tragedy with a
bittersweet ending.
McLain’s
characters, the people she meets during her harrowing journey through
a foster-care system increasingly gone mad, are both abusive and
pitiable, criminally unfit to be their own children’s parents,
and yet as adrift as Paula and her two sisters, Penny and Teresa.
It’s difficult to feel sorry for chronically abusive, frigid,
smothering and yet neglectful Hilde Lindbergh and her husband Bub,
who tries to teach young Paula how to kiss, to say nothing of Gordon
Clapp, who gets to Paula long before Bub (it’s a wonder charges
haven’t been filed) and his wife, who sees the girls’
bedwetting as defiance, rather than a plea for a parent’s
love.
This
could easily, in the hands of a lesser writer, be one long whine
about “why I’m no good and why I hate my mother.”
However, Paula McLain’s success as a writer and teacher points
to a resilient spirit that every word in this moving, descriptive,
evocative memoir embodies. McLain’s prose is a long-overdue
love letter to her wry, spunky, strong personality, the children
and families rebelliously proud of their differences in mainstream
America, the love coming from real parenting such as McLain’s
father’s ex-wife Donna, McLain’s churchgoing Granny,
and the kindly Fredericksons, a foster family for the McLain girls,
the forgotten Americana of the 1960’s and 1970’s, the
heartbreak of teenage girls looking for love in sexual embraces,
and most of all, the unbreakable bond between McLain and her sisters,
Penny and Teresa, who are as fascinating as she is.
Even
McLain’s absent mother, who returns miraculously out of the
blue, as often happens in real life, gets sympathetic treatment.
Paula, after letting loose long-suppressed frustration against her
mother Jackie, discovers through her mother’s husband Mike
that Jackie would “cry and cry” on her children’s
birthdays. In the end, Jackie herself becomes a tragic character,
but like her gifted daughter, not one without hope.
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