Both men and women need to read this book to get a fast check on relationships, how the sexes treat each other, and the responsibilities of society. While reading the chapters people can relate to the author’s comments with current issues.

Regarding the provocative cover, Tantaros said there has been no criticism and jokingly hopes that will continue. “It is inspired by the Wonder Woman pose. I hope people see how it symbolizes the modern female who is very powerful, but tied up in her own lasso of truth.”

The main premise of the book is how does a woman want to be thought of: As a capable, high functioning, responsible person who can take care of themselves and does not need special treatment, rules, and protections; or as the weaker sex? Tantaros respects the early feminists who “fought for rightful equality. Today, we hear women deserve equality and should be treated as equals.”

In the book she notes the two schools of thought, being a mother and having a career. When asked about this she stated, “Women like myself want a career first and are putting marriage/kids on hold. However, I do think there is an expectation that by a certain age you should be married and have kids. What upsets me is when people feel they have a right to ask you about it. It forces someone to disclose information they might not want to. In this book I argue for privacy and discretion. When a man is not married at forty he is a bachelor, but if it is a woman people think there must be something wrong with her.”

She told of how a guest on the set of Outnumbered pointed out “to me that I did not have any children. I countered by telling him his wife was 43 when his first child was born. Just like his wife, I decided to put my career first. Then during the commercial break he asked if I had frozen my eggs. How rude of him.”

The chapter, “Twisted Sister,” is very compelling. Tantaros feels “women summits, sisterhood, everyone sticking together, just does not exist. I put the quote in the book, ‘Men don’t bother trying to understand women. Women understand women and they hate each other.’ Historically women competed for other women over a man. But now the cattiness has exploded because we are all competing not just in our personal lives, but also in our professional lives. We talk about ‘mean girls’ as we listen to these hypocrites say that women need to stick together. The sisterhood is such a sham and never existed. We all don’t have to get along or be friends, but we should not treat each other as enemies. We should respect one another.”

A powerful quote in the book, “If women are told not to apologize for success, then we shouldn’t have to explain our desire to look good.” In the chapter, “Beautiful or Knot,” she points out how Fox News is criticized for hiring only good-looking women. But counters that these women are also very smart, holding law or graduate degrees. For her, looks are applied to men as well, “We haven’t elected a bald President in sixty years. The last fat President was William Howard Taft who left office more than a century ago. We need not make excuses for our looks.”

Her humor comes into play as she explains how “The Federal Bureau of Investigation has nothing on the Female Bureau of Investigation.” When asked about it she points out how she wrote in the book “the Department of Homeland Security should put a few thousand out-of-work millennials researching Jihadist sites. Our foreign enemies would not stand a chance. Never has there existed such a group of women who are skilled at busting dudes and figuring out where they’ve been in the last twenty-four hours. Most women have become expert investigators thanks to social media. The stories of the girls I have interviewed are so funny.”

Tied Up in Knots is a shocking, funny, and honest narrative about today’s gender gaps. It is insightful, informative, and relevant to what is happening currently in the world. Anyone wanting a new relationship guide for the 21st Century should read this book.