LOWE: You talk about knowing
what type of personality one has as
a step toward understanding one's emotions,
and how the emotions of others affect
our own reactions. If the goal is to
become balanced, compassionate, and
happy, which types have the hardest
time doing so, and which the easiest
in changing their old perceptions?
ORLOFF: THE EMOTIONAL EMPATH IS
THE EMOTIONAL TYPE I DISCUSS IN THE
BOOK THAT HAS THE HARDEST TIME BEING
BALANCED. (IT'S MY TYPE, SO I HAVE A
PARTICULAR INTEREST IN IT.) THE EMPATH
IS LOVING, INTUITIVE, COMPASSIONATE
BUT IS AN EMOTIONAL SPONGE, TAKING ON
THE STRESS IN THE WORLD INTO THEIR OWN
BODY. THIS CAN CAUSE EXHAUSTION, DEPRESSION
AND ANXIETY UNTIL HE OR SHE LEARNS HOW
TO CENTER AND NOT ABSORB FROM OTHERS.
THE GUSHER IS THE TYPE THAT HAS AN EASIEST
TIME IN CHANGING OLD PERCEPTIONS. GUSHERS
ARE IN TOUCH WITIH THEIR EMOTIONS AND
EXPRESS THEM READILY BUT NEED TO LEARN
TO GO INSIDE, AND TRUST THEIR INTUITION
A BIT MORE BEFORE PICKING UP THE PHONE
TO CALL A FRIEND AND EMOTE.
Q: Have you known many emotional
vampires? They are certainly more prevalent
than blood sucking ones, despite the
popularity of Stephanie Meyer.
A: YES INDEED, I'VE KNOWN EMOTIONAL
VAMPIRES. THE KIND THAT REALLY GETS
ME IS THE CONTROLLER/CHRONIC TALKER.
THIS PERSON CLAIMS TO "KNOW WHAT'S BEST
FOR YOU" AND DOESN'T HESITATE TO TELL
YOU. I GUESS BECAUSE MY MOTHER WAS SO
CONTROLLING AT TIMES I HAVE A PARTICULAR
SENSITIVITY TO THIS. NOW IT'S EASIER
FOR ME NOT TO REACT AND KEEP MY CENTER
WITHOUT FEELING LIKE MY POWER IS DRAINED.
THE NARCISSIST IS THE MOST MALIGNANT
TYPE I TALK ABOUT IN EMOTIONAL FREEDOM.
EVERYTHING IS "ALL ABOUT THEM". THEY
CAN BE INTELLIGENT, CHARMING AND SEDUCTIVE
UNTIL YOU DON'T GO ALONG WITH THEIR
PLAN. THEN THEY BECOME COLD AND WITHHOLDING
AND LACK EMPATHY.
Q: Depression is a huge factor
in society today, and perhaps it results
partly from a realization of the futility
of anger. What is the hope you bring
for finding techniques to transform
depression?
A: IN EMOTIONAL FREEDOM I WANT
TO DIGNIFY DEPRESSION TO PRESENT IT
AS A SPIRITUAL PASSAGE, A TRUE DARK
NIGHT OF THE SOUL—IT'S NOT JUST
A BIOCHEMICAL IMBALANCE, THOUGH THAT
MIGHT PLAY A PART. IT IS THE NOBLE STRUGGLE
OF FINDING LIGHT IN DARKNESS, FINDING
COMPASSION WITH THE SELF AND ALL WE
GO THROUGH ON EARTH. DEPRESSION CAN
LEAD TO THE SWEETNESS OF REBIRTH AND
NEW POSSIBILITIES. THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE.
MY JOB AS A PSYCHIATRIST IS TO BE A
BEARER OF HOPE.
Q: How do you keep yourself
calm and focused, personally?
A: I MEDITATE. I SIT QUIETLY, CALM
MY MIND, BREATHE—YES, BREATHE—IT
FEELS SO BEAUTIFUL. AND I DRIFT, CONNECT,
INTUIT SOMETHING LARGER AND MELT INTO
IT. I WOULD GO CRAZY WITHOUT MEDITATION—THE
MIND NEVER SHUTS OFF AND IT CAN DRIVE
YOU BATTY WITH ALL ITS OPINIONS AND
FEARS. I YEARN FOR DREAMS, FOR INTUITION,
I AM ATTRACTED THERE, AND FOLLOW THAT
FLOW TO MY HEART.
Q: Your audiobook has worksheets
and extras in a PDF file on the final
disk. Should listeners go to that first,
maybe do the quizzes there?
A: IT IS VERY USEFUL TO TAKE THE
QUIZZES EITHER BEFORE LISTENING TO THE
AUDIO, OR TO PAUSE AND TAKE THEM AS
YOU APPROACH A TOPIC IN THE AUDIO. FOR
INSTANCE, IN THE EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE SECTION,
IT WOULD BE GREAT TO READ THE QUIZ "AM
I AN EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE?" AS YOU READ
THIS SECTION. THE SAME GOES WITH WORRY
OR FEAR—TO READ THE QUIZ "HOW
FEARFUL AM I". THE POINT IS TO ESTABLISH
A BASELINE SO YOU CAN GROW AS YOU PRACTICE
THE TECHNIQUES IN EMOTIONAL FREEDOM. |